What are we telling our children? – (Mind your language)

“How can a grown-up person who is also preaching be telling lies?”

Mfon, clocked 5 years today, so, early this morning before we all set off for church everyone was exchanging that same old phrase that never gets worn-out. “Happy birthday to you. How old are you now? …….”

It was then Mfon, retorted, that his auntie, the one that teach him in the Sunday School was 3 years old. “My auntie is 3 years old.” When his elder brother Willy, who also attend the same Sunday School class laughingly tried to correct him, by explaining that their auntie was far older than 3 years, Mfon vehemently rebuffed his explanations. Even when Willy tried to explain to Mfon that their auntie was only joking, Mfon still shrugged it off with the reply, “how can a preacher be telling lies?”

Later in the day, his mum confronted the teacher. The Sunday School teacher did not tell the kids any lie at all. It so happened that October 1st, Nigeria independence day fell on Monday this year. We were all in the church with the kids to pray for our nation. In other to help the kids understand the significance of that day, the teacher has asked the children if any of them were celebrating their birthday on Octiber 1st.  As none of them raised up their hands, she tried to dramatize a response that any of them will typically give. Using mimicry, the teacher said, “auntie, I was born on October 1st and my age is 3 years.” It was this statement that was still impressed on Mfon’s innocent mind as the truth, even after 6 days.
The teacher, slightly taken aback, but pleasantly surprised that the kids were actually “catching” what they were being taught promised to be more careful with her illustrations henceforth. This way, she will not unwittingly be sending the wrong message opposite to what she intended for these kids.

Let us all be careful with the type of words we use with and on our children be they toddlers, teenagers or adults.

What words do you use with your children?
Words of deception, lying, cheating, cursing, swearing, abuse, profanity, duplicity…..
Words of blessings, affirmation, encouragement, truthfulness, love, upliftment, correction, acceptance …….

Colossians 3:9 – 10
Lie not one to another, seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds;
And have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him:

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