The Awesome Responsibility of Chosing Our Own Future – By Pastor W F Kumuyi

I cannot remember exactly how I came by the message below in 2010. Either, it was shared in our church or picked up from the church premises. Unfortunately, the copy I had was not in its original pristine state, so I asked my boy to recopy the contents of the leaflet into a Word document. This was done as faithfully as possible. Unfortunately, I again misplaced (“mis-filed” is more proper), the e-copy. I searched and searched the house for the original copy. Sorry for me, it has disappeared into thin air. I search the web for this article over and over, all to no avail.

Yesterday, prior to backing up my computer files, I just “stumbled” across this Word file in the portable hard disk drive I was using for the backup. Happily enough, this is the file I’ve been looking for since 2010. I felt this should be preserved for posterity. I gratefully seek the permission of our pastor and daddy – Pastor W. F. Kumuyi to reproduce it here. All the mistakes and errors are mine. Also, please if any of my readers have the original copy of this message, do kindly e-mail it to me.

The contents are as poignant and pertinent now to our situation as individuals and as a nation as when they were first written and ministered.

Read it for yourself.

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The Awesome Responsibility

OF CHOOSING OUR FUTURE 

-DEUTERONOMY 30:19

PRESIDENTIAL PRAYER BREAKFAST

31ST. JULY 2010

ABUJA FCT. NIGERIA

MESSAGE BY PASTOR (DR) W.F. KUMMUYI

I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before  you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live” (Deut. 30:19)

Everyone has been given the opportunity to choose his future and destiny! That is awesome! What is both delightful and frightening is our responsibility to choose the future of our nation. We can create our future! The future, a desirable future, does not just happen, whatever it brings, we’ve got to take on the chin, and we must endure.

The consequences of our choice can be incalculable. What if we decide not to make any choice? The decision to be indecisive is still a decision; it is still a choice that determines our future. The voice of wisdom and warning calls us from the cross-roads of Kadesh-Barnea, Israel was at the verge of entering the Promised Land was so near and so far! It was so near that the twelve spies could go in and come back in a few days. Yet it was so far that it took nearly forty years for Israel to enter in. The decision of ten leaders of their tribes led to a dark, black and bleak future of the nation. Misusing their opportunity of a proper choice that generations of elders passed on before the nation experienced a glorious future.

“Destiny is not a matter of chance; but a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved’’ (William Jennings Bryans). We have come to a critical moment in the history of our nation. How near are we from the Promised Land? It is so near; we can climb on the shoulders of the God chosen man, look forward and see it! Yet it could be as far as our fears and subtle distrust would make it! The Promised Land could be as near as ten months or as far as another hundred months. ‘’The future is in our hands. We are not hapless bystanders. We can influence whether we have a (nation) of peace, social justice, equity and growth or a (nation) of unbridgeable differences between people, wasted resources, corruption and terror” (James D. Wolfensohn).

  1. The Privilege Of Involvement: 1 Cor. 3:9; 2 Cor. 6:1; Ezek. 22:30a

“For we are labourers together with God: ye are God’s husbandry, ye are God’s building” (1 Cor. 3:9)

“We then, as workers together with him, beseech you also that ye receive not the grace of God in vain “(2 Cor. 6:1)

“And I sought for a man among the, that should make up the hedge, and stand in the gap before me for the land, that I should not destroy it” (Ezekiel 22:30a)

A promising future demands everyone’s involvement. “Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek (Barack Obama). Twelve elder-representatives were sent to view the land and they were to report back to Israel. They were the eyes of the nation; the nation could only see what they had seen nothing more, nothing less, and nothing less. They became the mind of the nation; their faith or their fears, their courage or their cowardice, their decision or lack of decisiveness would make the nation move forward or turn back. This privilege of involvement gave opportunity to the twelve to inscribe their names on the nation’s book of records as guiding stars in all generations.

In our nation today, ours is the privilege of involvement. God calls us to partnership in creating a future of peace, progress and prosperity. God has placed our future in our hands and democracy reminds us that we can choose a glorious future now. Involvement in such a national project has different levels of commitment. While some are passive, others are practical, positive, prayerful and productive in their involvement as servants of God, of the church, of mankind and the nation must necessarily begin with intercession and prayers. Abraham interceded and prayed for Sodom and Gomorrah. Could he have done more?  Could he have checked up whether Sodom had ten or more righteous people dwelling there? Could he have participated in a short-time project of raising up at least ten righteous men there? Whatever he could or could not do, we can go beyond (1) interceding and praying, and we can (2) investigate and participate. What if Abraham could (3) inform and persuade some people in Sodom?  The course of their history might have been changed. Convinced of thee credible ways forward, we ought to inform and persuade all who are under our sphere of influence. Such involvement is a responsibility from God, a duty to our nation and an obligation to our children.

  1. The Peril Of Indifference: Judges 5:23; 2 Kings 7;9; Matthew 25:41-45

“Curse ye Meroz, said the angel of the LORD, curse ye bitterly the inhabitants thereof: because they came not to the help of the LORD, to the help of the LORD against the mighty” (Judges5:23)

“Then they said one to another, We do not well: this day is a day of good tidings, and we hold our peace: if we tarry till the morning light, some mischief will come upon us: now therefore come, that we may go and tell the king’s household” (2 Kings 7:9)

“Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels: For I was an hungered, and ye gave me no drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me not in: naked and ye clothed me not: sick, and in prison, and ye visited me not. Then shall they also answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungered, or athirst, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison and did not minister unto thee? Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it  not to me” (Matthew 25:41-45)

Apathy, passivity and indifference may keep the nation in the wilderness for another generation. Quietness or silence is not always golden; sometimes it forges chains of slavery, bondage and affliction on helpless sons and creatures of God. Edmund Burke said; ”The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil id for good people to do nothing”. We have paid dearly for our passivity of previous years. Our burden of guilt must be unbearable as we observe our national loss. Can we claim to be illiterate or godly if we still remain indifferent? “The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read or write; but those who cannot learn, unlearn and learn” (Alvin Toffler). The pain of our past negligence is enough shock treatment to wake us up from our lethargy.

In the days of Deborah and Barak, “the angel of the Lord” cursed the inhabitants of Meroz for doing nothing; not for doing evil, but they were cursed bitterly for doing nothing!

On a day of divine visitation, the four lepers knew that their selfish quietness would bring calamity on them and prolong national famine and suffering unnecessarily. On the day of reckoning, judgment will come on those who did neither good nor evil. Think about it. Remaining passive and unconcerned when we could have saved millions of innocent starving children! Inactive, when we could have provided a happy end of life to millions of weak, infirm and dying old people! Unconcerned, when we could have prevented the wanton loss of thousands of precious lives! Indifferent, when we could have given a lively hope to a desperate and despairing continent by choosing a promising future for a nation on the verge of being truly great. We cannot afford to be indifferent or else future generations will curse this generation of elders for our inexcusable negligence.

  1. The Power Of Influence: 2 Sam. 19:14,15; Zechariah 8:23

“And he bowed the heart of all the men of Judah, even as the heart of the man; so that they sent this word unto the king, Return thou, and all thy servants. So the king returned, and came to Jordan. And Judah came Gilgai, to go to meet the king, to conduct the king over Jordan” (2 Samuel 19:14, 15) “Thus saith the Lord of hosts; In those days it shall come to pass, that ten men shall take hold out of all languages of the nations, even shall take hold of the skirt of him that is a Jew, saying, We will go with you: for we have heard that God is with you” (Zechariah 8:23).

We can no more “sit back and apathetically blame indifference. The loudest voices may be delivering the worst messages today, but history shows that grass roots energy has the power to change anything when that energy is focused towards justice” (Senator John Kerry Of  Massachusetts, USA).

Instead of complaining and criticizing we can wield positive influence on the grassroots to create a desirable future. Instead of cursing the darkness we can light a candle and influence others to do the same. In the project of creating the future and rebuilding a nation, “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, who strives valiantly; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, and knows in the end the triumph of high achievement. His place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” (Theodore Roosevelt).

Influence! Everyone has influence. Parents over children, pastors and priests over the laity, friends in fellowship, neighbours in the community etc. We all have some influence. Al Gore, a former VP of USA, has pointed out: “There is an old African proverb that says, if you want to go quickly, go alone; if you want to go far, go together. We have to go far, quickly find a way to change the world’s consciousness about exactly what we are facing and how we have to work to solve it”. Influencing one another to go together and influencing others to go along with us can create a better future than any of us imagined.  “With God all things are possible”.

Our influence can be deliberate and structured. Instead of leaving the future of our nation to luck and chance, we can take definite steps to influence others and move them to practical and positive actions.

Considering levels or stages of influence, we have

  • elementary influence
  • economic influence
  • ecclesiastic influence
  • ecumenical influence and
  • exponential influence

At the base of the pyramid of influence is the elementary, primary influence which we exercise on those who are close to us, who love and trust our judgment on important issues in life. We can easily inform and influence them.

At the apex of the pyramid is the structured, exponential influence. For example, take 100 key leaders who are are committed to creating this future together. Let each one of them influence 10 others to be committed to the same vision within a month. Repeat this process each month for the next six months. What result can we expect? Consider this!

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If we are committed to doing well, let us influence and inspire others to do the same commitment. And the glorious future will be near, so very near.

Tribute: Thank you Madiba. You did very well.

Thank You Madiba. You did very well.

John 5:35

He was a burning and a shining light: and ye were willing for a season to rejoice in his light.

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“As one genuine bank bill is worth more than a thousand counterfeits, so is one man, with right on his side, worth more than a thousand in the wrong.”
~~~ Frederick Douglass

The guy did not claim to be the Messiah or John the Baptist, but indeed, he was a burning and shining light. Now we all, – friends, foes and frenemies turned friends – are basking and glorying in the light he did shone. Rightly, we must and ought to. My concern here is that, how many of us are willing to follow his examples and keep walking in the paths he blazed? Yes, he has blazed for us a trail hewn out of suffering, persecutions, unjust banishment from friends, family and loved ones. He lived a life embodied by selfless-sacrifice, love, forgiveness and reconciliation.

Rightly and deservedly so, the whole world is singing the praises of the late Nelson Mandela to the highest ends of the universe. But, (and a big “but”), how many of us are willing and ready to follow his exemplary life and practise his lofty ideals while the seemingly endless rivers of accolades from friends and those who formerly sworn enemies continue flowing?

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Mandela is good …

Mandela is a hero ….

Mandela is a leader …..

Mandela has a good heart ….

Mandela liberated his people from the yoke of oppression. …

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The question is this. “How many of us are willing to thread the paths he trod?” Both friends and former foes and frenemies glory and pour unending tributes on him now.

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How many of those rulers (especially of our African kindred) who are scurrying to be the first to enter their names in the official condolences register will imbibe his example, preach  and practise, unity,  justice, peace and reconciliation to their own people in their home countries? Many of them will be jostling to occupy the front seats at the arena on the day of his burial. How many of them will come back to their immediate home domains with the goal of letting go the politics of greed, selfishness, divisiveness, tribalism, oppression, injustice, religious intolerance,  etc, etc.

The grief and ululations along with the praise and adulations are going to linger on for a long time. But let his memory and the example he has laid down by a guiding light for the rest of us all.

Most of us will not be called to live the life he lived. It is not very likely that “the ordinary me or you” we will ever be required or called to shoulder the burden of the epic  heroic struggle for which his ultimate triumph is our collective triumph  today. But, we are called to be courageous. As Seth Godin puts it in his book, Icarus Deception, ” Courage doesn’t always involve physical heroism in the face of death. It doesn’t always require giant leaps worthy of celebration. Sometimes, courage is the willingness to speak the truth about what you see and to own what you say. In order for there to be courage, of course, there must be risk …….”

Change will come when we begin to believe and act upon the simple premise that ordinary people like you and I can make a difference and even achieve extraordinary things. But the change must start from within.

You can liberate yourself, yes, mentally from within. You can liberate your family. Even you can be a Mandela on the street and to the community where you are living. Whether you are black or white or of any color in between, whether you are from the North or South, East or West, justice, peace, unity, reconciliation and progress will come when we recognize our universal brotherhood. Our needs are not all the same, but, we do have common needs that are universally non-negotiable. Life, liberty, freedom of conscience, equal-opportunity … What is good for you is also good for me and what is good for your brother is equally good for my brother.

 

“Men do not love those who remind them of their sins unless they have a mind to repent.”
~~~ Frederick  Douglass (1818 – 1895)

Coming of age in the 70s and growing up through the 80s many of my age mates and older generations never dreamt that our generation will live to see the day when apartheid regime and racial segregation will crumble in South Africa. We watched in helplessness as the arms of the oppressors seemed to be unrelentingly waxing stronger and ever stronger. Even after his release from prison, it was as if the joy that engulfed the continent and all peace and freedom-loving people the world over was going to be a forlorn short-lived joy. The nation of South Africa seemed poised to descend into and a bloody civil-war in the face of the blood-letting, bomb-explosions and mayhem that ensued not long after Mandela’s release from prison.

Your patience, doggedness and your forgiving spirit of reconciliation was a guiding star that led the country through all those treacherous shoals. For this, we say thank you Madiba. Thank you Madiba, you did very well.

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“Formerly we suffer from crime. Now we suffer from laws.”

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“Government takes from the needy and gives to the greedy.”

“Formerly we suffer from crime. Now we suffer from laws.”

(As seen on a signpost along the road between Chikasha and Oklahoma City on 24-Nov-2014)
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The road was caked in snow and the drive along the sleet covered slippery iced up road was slow and particularly treacherous for me and my co-worker (who assisted me by driving me from Duncan to OKC). New though he was to driving on an icy sleet covered road terrain, he was able to handle the car effectively, all the way from Duncan to OKC Will Rogers World Airport. We had to maintain such a very slow  speed (average 40km/hr or less) that I was able to read both sides of the billboard captioned with the two messages above. I smiled to myself as I reflected , “You these Americans, come to Nigeria and witness what we are suffering from. If you people go through 1% of what we experience in Nigeria, you will know that your country with all your real and imagined problems is indeed as close to Utopia here on earth as any nation can be.”

Here in our beleagured one and only Nigeria, what are we suffering from? Not very much different from the  lamentations expressed in the billboard captions above.

What are the ills that bedevil our corporate existence as a nation from the hands of our rulers, nay, conquerors and all the powers that be. We suffer from executive lawlessness and the abuse of power in high places, lack of foresight and concern for the future of oncoming generations. Countless. The politicians and rulers delight in making laws that make life miserable for the ordinary honest and law abiding citizen. Where do we start from. Where do we end. When will we even see the light at the end of the tunnel?

That something is legal doesn’t mean that it is legitimate. Yet, the “conquering” rulers who govern us as if our country is their vassal state delight in making and enforcing illegitimate and inhumane laws. Take the case of vehicle re-registration as an example. What happened to the old vehicle licenses that have been in use these past several years? They were “computerized” right from the begining, so we were told. Now hapless law abiding citizens are required to fork out amounts in ecess of N35,000 to have their vehicles re-registered. Drivers and vehicle owners who fail to meet the obligatory deadline for this exercise will be compelled to pay excessive fines or be jailed for 6 months. Meanwhile, getting the new “computerized” vehicle licenses from the authorities is a harrowing experience for law abiding citizens. Take the case of Port Harcourt and Rivers State, there is essentially only one office (to my knowledge) in the whole state where people can go and register their vehicles and get hold of new or renewed driving licenses. Just go to Abel Jumbo Street in Old GRA, Port Harcourt. The throng of crowd you meet there any day and the painful hassles they go through will make you shed tears for our people. Where is the heart and conscience of the authorities and government officials and their agents who are supposed to be responsible for this  simple exercise that ought to be straight forward?  They don’t need to invent new computers. Neither do they need to build their own printers, design databases or other IT infrastructures from the scratch. Yet they prefer not to implement systems and technologies that work with effortless ease in other places. Why? All these bottlenecks were deliberately put in place through corruption. And such designs allow corruption to infamously flourish through all the ranks of the agents who are supposed to make things work. Haba! From all intents and purposes, this new vehicles re-registration hanging as a sword of Damorcles over the head of hapless law abiding citizens is designed to fleece vehicle users of their hard-earned money. And all these are being done in the name of government orders without considerations for how this policy will and is affecting people.  Where are the voices of the people? Who speaks for the common man? 
In a society where the government respects the rights and the freedom of the citizens, this type of policy will never see the light of day.

People should have the right to use any type of tinted glass for their cars so long as such doesn’t constitute hazards to other road users. Tell them to stop making laws of “ever shifting goal-posts”. Tinted glass today, no tinted glass come tomorrow. OK, tinted glass come next tomorrow. We are in big trouble here because most of our rulers and law makers choose to burry their heads in the sand.  Another point of concern is the issue of new vehicle license plates and the renewal of driving license at FRSC office. It’s like going through the eyes of the needle to get either of these documents. This type of condition makes it possible for all form of malpractises and corruption to grow an multiply unchecked.
Does anybody care? Is anyone listening? The society grows and make progress when people plant trees knowing fully well that they may not be around to partake of its fruits or seek solace under the shade such trees provide when thise trees mature. For the sake of our future generations, let’s start planting trees today.

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Gravity: The picture that almost cost me my camera.

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Francis and I were returning from Ibadan (on 4 – September – 2013) where we went to drop-off Oonere. She just commenced studying for her Advanced Levels papers at Ibadan. With Francis behind the wheel, departing from Ibadan, we soon left Ife, Ondo and Ore far behind. The section of the expressway we were then plying was fairly good.

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Maintaing a normal speed we were heading towards Okada town and then on to Benin City. On the Rivers, Bayelsa (and parts of Delta) states sections of the East West road, you are guaranteed more of bomb-craters sized pot-holes than a smooth ride. The 4WDs in spite of their stamina are not spared the wearing and wasting  rigours of the half-heartedly constructed and mostly dilapidated or almost non-existent roads.  We are told that hope is on the way, courtesy of the behemothal road construction machines that stringed more than half the length of the road from Port Harcort in Rivers state to Warri in Delta state. 

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I never cease to be amazed by the unending streams of wisdom scribbled on the various shades of vehicle plying our Nigerian roads. A lot of the time, I never had the chance to grab hard-copies of these mobile wise-graffitis while driving, except when I am held up in traffic jams known as “go-slows” here. Francis returned from Abuja some couple of days back. This afforded me the luxury of being driven most of the round trip from Port Harcourt to Ibadan and back. With my Panasonic DMC-ZS10 by my side, I was able to grab some of these uncanny pieces of wisdom and often times hilarious wisecracks that help to keep Nigerians the happiest people on earth. Supposedly. At other times, my Samsung Galaxy S3 comes in handy especially when I am held-up in a “go-slow”.
From Ore, we were trailing on to Benin City when I caught sight of this lorry with the inscription behind it;
“WHAT GOES UP MUST COME DOWN” – as if to scream at Sir Isaac Newton that he was not the first observer or discoverer of the law of gravity. He only happened to package it better. Afterall, packaging, they say, is everything. Packaging is what makes iPhone stand apart from my old rusty Galaxy S3 (on which I am writing this blog). Don’t worry. I am contented and happy.

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Before he had the time to zoom pass this lorry, I told my son to slow down so that I can capture a short or two of this “short-wisdom-message.”
Francis eased his foot from the accelerator so that I can fill my camera view-screen with this shot. Hardly have I finished grabbing these series of shots when a police man appeared from no-where and waved for us to stop. With the self-assurance that we were not over-speeding, I told Francis to slow down and stop. Ordinarily, the policeman ought not to have stopped our vehicle, because of the speed we were then maintaining. This was all the more so because the lorry immediately ahead of us was not stopped.

Policeman: “I noticed that you were taking our pictures from your car. Why did you take our picture?”
Me: “Officer, we were not taking pictures of you or your people. We are not even aware that there is a police-checkpoint here. In fact we were taken aback by your unexpected dashing out towards the road to stop us. You can even look at the picture I just took. In fact, I’ve been taking this and other similar shots all along the way.”
I now proceeded to show him all the set of pictures recently taken. Apparently convinced by my explanations, the policeman now proceeded to ask for my name, my state of origin, where we were coming from and where we were heading to.
Me: “Officer, we are returning home from where we went to drop-off my daughter at her school.”
Policeman: “Where do you work? Can I see your company‘s ID card?”
Me: “… I don’t travel with my company’s ID card on personal businesses.”
The policeman now proceeded to check our vehicle documents and driving license.  “All correct” and almost set to let us go, he was enthralled by my petite but very capable Panasonic DMC ZS10 camera.
Policeman: “This your camera fine o. How much did you buy it.?”
Me: “Yes it is. I spent almost as much money to fix it (when it got damaged) as the initial purchase price. So, this camera cost me roughly $700.”
Policeman: “That is a nice camera you’ve got. Can you help me to get one like it?”
Me: “Actually, this camera is already old now. You might be able to get this type or a similar one for about $250 equivalent in Lagos or Port Harcourt. Better still, you can send somebody to buy it for you from the US.”
Continuing for some minutes more, the policeman eventually let us off. As we were about to start driving away I gve the him N1000 without any solicitation from him.
Policeman: “I hope that you are not bribing us o ?”
Me: “Do you call that a bribe? I freely gave you the money without your asking for it. Is that what you call a bribe?”

Much later in the day after arriving at PHC, I had time to pour over the pictures. Unknown to me,the policeman was partially captured in one of the shots.

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Me: “Francis, come and see. That policeman was actually captured in one of the shots I took on the road today. I just thank God that he did not confiscate my newly “redeemed” Panasonic camera. It’s like he really wanted to seize it from us. If he had seen his image in the camera when I was showing him all those pictures on the preview screen, he would have had a “perfect” excuse to use to snatch the camera from us. Then, I could as well have “kissed” my precious camera good-bye forever.”
Francis: “Yes, it’s like he really wanted to dispossess us of that camera at all costs. But then, what would have been his justification for doing that? I don’t think I would have let him go away with the camera just like that. At best, I would have just tell him to watch me delete the “offending shots” – those that had his image captured.”
Me: “Francis! Have you forgotten that you don’t argue with the man who wields a gun? Well, let us just thank God that things did not get worse than the slight delay they forced on us. It seems that those police officers were up to no-good, that is why they were so antsy over our taking their pictures, as they supposed we were doing.”

This reminded me of the experience of some National Geographic writers/photographers who were accosted and detained by soldiers in the early days of OBJ’s administration. Was it Ed Kashi of National Geographic that said, “Nigeria is a country of many shadows. The more shadows you uncover, the more there are to uncover.”? I am not sure of who it was that made that statement. Nigeria will get better when all of us, individually, begin to uncover the dark shadows in the crevices and all the unseen inner recesses of our hearts and our souls.

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A head-cap, a heirloom and a story.

In preparation for the Sunday church service, I was chatting with my wife. Addressing myself to her, I inquired, “which dress I’m I even going to wear for tomorrow’s church worship service self?” Before, she came forth with a suggestion, I opined, “I think I will wear any of those my wax prints. I will also like to use that my “green-cap” – the one I inherited from my late dad.” I now proceeded to retrieve the cap from the wardrobe. I tried the cap on before my mum who was playing and passing the time with her grand children.

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                  (Me @ 28)

The kids were all laughing and grinning as I put on the seemingly, to them, out-of-fashion cap. On seeing the cap on my head, my mum smiled, a knowing, reminiscing smile, “so this cap is still in existence?

That is the cap your dad wore on the day we got married. Actually, he was using it even before we got married.”

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(My mum & dad on their wedding day.)

I now proceeded to display the wedding picture that my dad and mum took on the day of their wedding fifty something years ago.

A scanned copy of that wedding picture (I got it from my uncle’s album) is permanently resident on all my mobile devices. With my mum, the kids and my wife, pouring over the picture displayed on my  Samsung Galaxy S3 while taking turns to admire the cap, irredentist Willy retorted,

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         (Willy with his mum)

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      (My wife with my mum)

“Daddy it’s like grandma got married when she was very young o.” To which I replied, “Yes she got married when she was very young. Probably, while she was still less than twenty.” I asked my mum,
“How old were you when you married my dad?” To which she replied, “I cannot remember my exact age then, but I gave birth to you after about two years of my marriage to your dad.’

This cap was worn by my late dad over 50 years ago when he and my mum tied the nuptial chord. Except for the slight fading-off of the original colours, it is still as sturdy and resillient looking. The cap looks as if it will last for at least another 50 years, provided it is not manhandled, mutilated or stolen.

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             (Obong – then)

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(Obong a.k.a Valiant – today)

Written on 18-August-2013

“It’s none of my business!”

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“Did I just hear you say It’s none of your business?”
“Yea, it’s none of my business,”
“Think again.”
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No man is an island ….
Never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.
~~~ John Donne (1572 – 1631)
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So, think again and think very well next time you say, “It doesn’t concern me.”

Fanta + Coke = Let no man put assunder.

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Before the audience, the venerable chief said, “Right inside that glass is the mixture of Fanta and Coca Cola. Is there any person in this audience who will tell me that he or she can separate the contents of this glass into their original individual components of Fanta and Coca Cola?” The audience replied in chorus, “No!”
“That is exactly what the union of marriage is. Whatsoever God has joined together, let no man put assunder.”
After sharing more words of wisdom borne out of the experience of a sage, the chief now proceeded to drink from the glass and then passed the same to the newly wedded couple. The husband then sipped from the glass and passed it on to his wife for her to do the same. Meanwhile, the dancing, merriment and lively celeberation continues.

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